A MORAL DILEMMA

"Dear Agony Aunt

I am in a bit of a dilemma - a moral dilemma.
I am a member of a local association that supports the community.
It has just come to my attention that a fellow member has something in his past that concerns me.
He was a member of an infamous sect commune that preyed on children. He was convicted of attempted rape and unlawful sexual connection of a 14 year old (when he was in his 40s and spent several years in prison.
My dilemma is this:

• I know that this man was prosecuted and convicted under the laws of the land and served his sentence.

• I have an abhorrence of predatory behaviour however and am in the 'leopards don't change their spots' brigade.

• As a result I find it impossible to forget and forgive. I am not one of those 'turn the other cheek' people.

I feel that I should resign my position as I have no wish to serve on this committee with that man. I will not be able to give support to any of his proposals or efforts.
Please advise.

 - Mr Moralhighground"

Dear Mr Moralhighground,

I can see where you are going with this but feel that I cannot objectively comment and advise as I am too close to this in that I have the same feelings as you.

Perhaps one of our many readers can assist and provide a useful comment.

BALLS!

Dear Agony Aunt,

Please help me.

On the weekend I played pool with my wife and she beat me convincingly two games to one.
I feel that this is damaging to my ego and may cause on-going problems.

What can I do?

 - Patrick Hettic.


Dear Patrick,

To use pool analogy:

•  you have to use a straight cue to knock those balls together.
• There's nothing worse than good position if you miss the shot.
• Don't try to get perfect shape when good shape will do.
• A "real man" doesn't play safe unless they want to win.
• It's not the cue. It's you.
• Never give a sucker an even break.
• If you can't find the one being hustled in the pool room, it's you.
• Those who can't play ... teach.
• Stroke it, don't poke it.

But really, I suggest that you just grow some.

- Agony Aunt

TOILETS

Dear Agony Aunt,

We occasionally have guests coming to visit us in our house.
We like this as it's a good way to catch up with friends and relations as we live in a fairly remote location.
We have a reasonably large house that easily accommodates up to 6 guests without any problems.
We have a set-up whereby guests have two double bedrooms, a large bathroom with shower and toilet, a laundry, a kitchen and a lounge (that has a fold-out double bed couch). This means that they can join us in all communal things but still have space for their private enjoyment.
All good?
Yes, but we have found that some guests when staying with us use and enjoy all that but when socialising in the main part of the house (dinner, drinks, entertainment etc.) still, when they want to use the toilet, use my bloody the main toilet when it would be just as easy for them to walk those extra few paces down to their own bloody the guest room's toilet and bathroom.
What's that all about?
I'm not a 'toilet crank' but I do like privacy. I would never do 'number twos' in any one else's place including public conveniences, so would like other people to respect this.

- C. Opraphobia.

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Dear C. Opraphobia.

What can I say?.................... you are a fucking nutter! Everyone pees and poops. Haven't you heard that saying "if you don't shit you die"? Jesus, get a life.

Well, now that I've got that out of my system (pun intended) I must admit that I kind of have an understanding of where you're coming from. I pee in other people's houses (in the toilets obviously - unless they're right bastards and then the nearest wardrobe will do) but I wouldn't be so presumptuous as to have a crap unless, after staying there for more than 3 days I didn't have an option. We've had dinner parties at our house or, even just pre-dinner drinks when some manky guest has done a big one in the bog!

Bloody hell! Yes, I think I know where you're coming from now.
My suggestion is to put signs up on both bathrooms saying 'Out Of Order' and hopefully the guests will bugger off within a day.

Hope this helps.